If you have just gone through a breakup, then you are probably wanting answers on one of two things, either getting over your ex or how to get your ex back. Either option is hard, but almost everyone fits into one of the two categories, with very few of them actually being able to move on without some wishing and hoping.
Before you do anything you need to step back and really analyze the relationship and your ex. Think about how everything was and how everything will be now. Try to set the way you are feeling aside and be objective. You’ll either really want your ex back or you might find that the breakup isn’t really that bad of an idea.
If after your step back you decide that you would really like to get back together with your ex then the first thing on your agenda should be to apologize. Now you may feel like you have already done this. Maybe even multiple times. But if you were saying you were sorry during your break up then your ex probably did not think you were being sincere, only that you were trying to stop the breakup from happening.
If you did something in your relationship that you really should apologize for then you should really apologize with out trying to get back together with your ex.
Your ex will believe you when you tell them that you are sincerely sorry this time because there is nothing hinging on you telling them. After the break up is over you are no longer trying to save your relationship by apologizing, your just saying you are sorry because you are truly sorry.
If your ex is the one that should be apologizing, instead of trying to get a sincere apology from them, just forgive them. You might never forget, especially if cheating was to blame for the breakup, but if you want to get back together with your ex you will need to learn how to forgive them. Just saying I forgive you might not be enough for you to truly forgive them so you might want to consider reading a book, or two, on forgiveness and how to really mean it. If you want to win back your ex, then this step will help you do it. It can also prevent future problems in your relationship.
If you do get back together with your ex, a few months down the road of your newly repaired relationship, some of the old problems that the relationship had might start finding there way back into your relationship.
If you only said you forgave your ex but really didn’t, then you will have a hard time getting past everything. When old wounds are reopened, then hurtful things are often said.
If you have fully forgiven your significant other, then there will be no need to rehash the past problems. While your learning how to forgive them for the problems that caused the breakup, forgive them for the breakup itself. This will save you a lot of heart ache down the road.
Another way to win back your ex is to show them the side of you that they fell in love with in the first place, not just the you who got broken up with.
You were in the relationship because you had certain qualities that they loved about you like your thoughtfulness or kindness, not because you were hurt, angry, and a green eyed monster. While it will be difficult to hide that you are hurt, you should concentrate on being the best “you” that you can be and you might win back your ex by being the person that they fell in love with.
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